प्रेम होता है मनसे | मन चंचल है, शरीर स्थिर और जड़ है । शरीरके स्थल पर स्थिरता होसकती है , मनके स्थल पर स्थिरता बहुत मुश्किल है । सुबह फूल खिलाता, शामतक मुर्जाजायेगा और गिरजायेगा ।
फूल जिंदा है - जन्मेगा, जीयेगा और मरेगा ।
जहाँ प्रेमके बिना विवाह होता है, उस विवाह में और वेश्या के पास जानेमे बुनियादी बेद नहीं है ।वेश्या को आप एक दिनकेलिए करीदते है और पत्नी को आप पुरे जीवनकेलिए करीदते है । हालाकि साथ रहनेसे एक तरहका सम्बन्द पैदाहोजाताहै association से, लोग उसी को प्रेम समजलेतेहै वो प्रेम नहीं है ।
एक और स्थिरता है, एक और गड़ी है आद्यात्मिक (spiritual) की उस तलपर जो पति पत्नी एक बार मिलजाते है या दो व्यक्ति मिलजाते है उन्हेंतो ऐसा लगता है कि वे अनन्त जन्मो केलिए एक होगएहै । वहा फिर कोइ परिवर्थन नहीं है । उस स्थल पर चाहिए स्थिरता, उस स्थल पर चाहिए अनुभव । ~OSHO @Sambhog_Se_Samadhi_Ki_Aur_05
आत्मिक प्रेमही साछा प्रेमहै और वाही प्रार्थना बनजाता है ।।
What does the Hindi part above say?
OSHO says -
The heart is the seat of love and the heart is unstable. Body is more stable than the mind. The body is in a state of constancy. The heart is mercurial; the body is constant, stable. A flower blooms in the morning and by evening it droops, falls to the ground. Flowers are alive - born, will survive and die.
There is very little difference between going to a prostitute and being in a marriage without love. You buy a prostitute for a night, whereas you purchase a wife for your whole life; this is the only difference. When there is no love a purchase is being made – whether you are hiring a woman for a night or making arrangements for a lifetime. Of course, because of the day-to-day association a kind of relationship comes into being – and we call it love. This is not love; love is something else altogether. These marriages are simply of the body, and so the relationship can never go any deeper than the physical.
A man and a woman who can meet on the spiritual level, who can unite spiritually – even once – feel they have united for endless lives to come. There is a deep fluidity; timelessness and pure ecstasy. Love is the experience of unity. when two lives unite. When such a harmony exists between two people I call it love.
Read full from the book - "From Sex to Superconsciousness"
I am not sure whenever Osho talks about marriage which he never experienced himself. Why would the bond that manifests through marriage be less than a bond you find outside marriage? You can find each other spiritually, even in an arranged marriage. Love marriage, too. It is always dangerous to generalize just from one's own experience.
But in arranged marriage you expect love from someone who failed to love until marriage. I think first love then marriage would be properly as it brings joy in the relationship but arranged marriages are done based on - superficial appearance, carnal desires, comfort, security, respect, future, wealthiness, caste and other futile stuff except love or joy which is why I think most arranged marriages have gone to the dogs. I feel arranged marriage in nothing but a legal contract for the provision of comfort, sex and security to each other.
Hm difficult to say. I have never been in an arranged marriage. But I know that also in love marriage we marry an illusion, a projection. It needs couple of years to see the real person in the other, initially we see only what we want to see. Then the big disappointment: I married the prince, now he is a frog! Well, we all have princely and frogly aspects... can we go beyond???
OSHO may be in favour of love marriage if at all one wants to marry but he adds -
In Love marriage Joy is there, but joy too is very momentary. And the more romantic a love is, the more danger there is of falling from the peak, and then you fall into a dark valley
Yes, first we have to be married to ourselves. Then, as the cherry on top of the cake, we can take someone else in. A good marriage is a marriage with truth. Your own truth. If hubby accepts it, nice. If not, bye bye.
"more romantic a love is, the more danger there is of falling from the peak" Yep, this is about dependency Romantic love says that two people are one soul in two bodies. You singularly don't exist. Now, what if your partner starts hurting you or hindering you. In your romantic mind you think there is no life without him/her. so you remain with him/her, but suffering.
"In love marriage we marry an illusion, a projection." Long back I've sent a similar msg to my then girlfriend -
"All these days I have been relating to that xxxxx who is residing in my inner space, actually its not you but its like your virtual image created by me and to which I have been giving all the proprietary qualities that makes her more attractive and likely to me. This is all about my xxxxx, for me she is 10 out of 10 but coming to you, I don't know anything about you except the fact that you and the xxxxx that I love look similar to the outside."
ROHAN RATHORE a true lover from IIT Guwahati was suffering from cancer. He sang this song for Supriya a girl he loved more than anything and anyone in the world. Unfortunately she didn't return his love but this song was something he felt he had to do. He died just 15 days after recording this song...
God Bless Rohan Rathore...
Oh love of mine - Tune Mere Jaana Kabhi Nahi Jaana Lyrics
Oh love of mine
With a song and a wine
Your harsh and divine
like truths and a lie
But the tale end's not here
I have nothin to fear
For My love is yell of giving and hold on..
in the bright emptiness
In the room full of it
is a Cruel misturess
I feel this sunrise
Then nest all hollowness
or I have no where to go nt called
and i feel so loneeeeeeeelllllyyyyyy
There's no better place than this
emptiness and i m so looonnnnneeeeeelllllyy yaaa
thers a better place than this
emptiness heyyaaayaaaaa
Some vocals.....
Tune mere jaana,Kabhi nahi jana
Ishq mera, dard mera
Tune mere jaana,Kabhi nahi
Ishq mera,Dard mera
Aashiq tera haaaaaa
Bheed mein khoya rehta hai
Jaane jahan aaaaaaaaa
Pucho toh itna kehta hai....
Tat i feel so loneeeellllyyyyyyyyyyy
There's a better place than dis
emptiness...
I want a love I can see, that's the only kind that means a thing to me
don't want a love you have to tell me about
that kind of a loving I can sure do without
yeah yeah yeah yeah
I want a love I can feel, that's only kind of a loving I think is real
don't wanna be quoted by something I heard now
cause baby actions speak louder than words (ah, louder than words)
yeah yeah yeah yeah
I want a love I that's mine, in the rain or in sun, sun, sunshine
a love to keep me warm when it's cold
a kind of love that will never grow old (ah never grow old)
yeah yeah yeah yeah
uh huh don't you know i want a love
yeah yeah yeah yeah
i want a love i can see (i want a love i can see)
that kind of a love you can give to me (can give to me)
the kind of kisses to make, make me melt (ooh, make me melt)
that kind of a love that can really be felt (really be felt)
yeah yeah yeah yeah
ah don't you know i want a love
yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah baby baby baby baby baby I
don't you know I want a love (yeah) (yeah) (yeah). . .
Sex is life; you are always sexual and you cannot avoid your genitals, yet your beliefs about your sexuality can be the source of many inner conflicts resulting in an avoidance of true sexual understanding.
sexual relationships are not random events. At times sexual encounters can span the lines of time involving simultaneous love affairs and other situations that are ongoing or in need of resolution from another dimension.
Because thoughts and desires seed the field of existence with your intentions, you will notice and be drawn to someone you have something in common with.
When founded upon worthy values your sexuality and sexual experience will offer romance, excitement, creativity, trust, sharing, intimacy, passion, pleasure, fun, exuberance, caring, love and self-worth.
The power and use of sexual energy are much more complex than physical attractions founded on good looks and social status. How you manage your sexual energy and value you put upon your sexual experiences are the basis of your self-worth.
Sex is all about attracting partnerships. Relationships enrich personal growth and development. Therefore, you will attract a partner who is willing on some level to work with you on the specific issues that are pivotal to your personal growth and transformations.
Sexual energy is a karmic opening to your personal time-line. During this time of acceleration you may attract people from your so-called past lives to recreate specific experiences for the purpose of healing unresolved issues.
Whenever sexual attraction occurs between two individuals, they are responding to the telepathic exchange of energy and recognition of each other's intentions of availability.
The quality of Love you receive mirrors the value you place on yourself.
The essential ingredients of healthy, well-balanced sexual relationships are trust, comfort and compatibility, aligned with honesty and integrity.
Remember, you attract someone for good reason. If you can work through your difficulties with the intention of becoming a better person and if you have enough common ground upon, sex will create a far reaching bond with your partner that can restore and revitalize your whole identity, healing your body, mind and spirit.
"In COMPASSION, you simply give. In love, you are thankful because the other has given something to you. In COMPASSION, you are thankful because the other has taken something from you, you are thankful because the other has not rejected you."
You had come with energy to give, you had come with many flowers to share, and the other allowed you, the other was receptive. You are thankful because the other was receptive.
"A mother's love for the child is closest to COMPASSION. Why?
Because the mother has known the child in herself; he was a member of her being."
In the human experience, the relationship between a mother and her child is the closest to COMPASSION. People call it love but it should not be called love. It is more like compassion than love because it has no passion in it.
"COMPASSION comes, there are moments when you are flowing, when nothing holds you, when you are open. Allow it! Enjoy it! Make it a point that it comes more and more. Don't close your heart. Float with it. Let it stream. Without COMPASSION, there is no truth."
